Can you forgive sexting

I don't know what to do now. His stuff is out of my house, he's gone back to his parents to get his head together with both personal and work life. I keep feeling sick, thinking over and over again. I'll try, I'll get angry and just want this to stop. Should I stay with him and work it out? I love him and realise both of us needs to make our relationship work , but it'll be so hard to trust him again without any paranoia, without any worry. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

Sorry for the long post!! See last answer. Sorry but if it was me I'd move on for the sake of my future sanity. I doubt I'd ever trust him again and rather than accusing him of things even in my head I'd rather step away from the hurt and potential madness. Search for a thread. U will never know how far it went or believe what he has said because he clearly hasnt been truthful with u from the start.

U deserve better. Family and other relationships Cannot Forgive Mother in Law. Family and other relationships Ex sexting me!! Family and other relationships Husband caught sexting again. After having multiple conversations with men and women friends over the years on this very topic, the responses have varied. A few people have said that sexting, emotional and cyber cheating are all far worse than physical contact.

Apparently, If the actions mentioned above are not considered cheating, then should the inappropriate behavior be forgiven? And if you forgive, should you stay in the relationship? After reading more on the Weiner sexting scandal and reading some of the text messages that were sent, I was even further disgusted by the fact that Weiner shared personal details of his married life with the other woman.

He agreed and first I found a series of texts that I don't understand -- it appeared to be a drunk prank, as it started out with someone asking for a girl and my boyfriend responding in a joking manner. A picture of himself and his penis made it into this thread, but the other person just sent a joke picture of a guy in a Justin Bieber shirt, sooo He tried to say that this must be all there was. But there weren't any boobs in that, so I scrolled again and found texts to a girl we knew in college, -a few years ago.

It's a girl who we both had thought was kind of odd and awkward, and who neither of us had ever been super close friends to, I thought. There were messages dating all the way back to April , but probably only 40 messages in total, a few occurring every couple of months on and off until New Year's Eve.

When I looked at the dates they were times for which I'd been away for school, or when we were living apart -- nothing during the times that we were together. The messages were your standard "do this for me" or "I'd like to see a pic of X" and then some pics of boobs, his genitals, and hers.

The most frightening thing was that he started joking about buying her a plane ticket to visit him, and said "I should be free in February and April" -- in other words, when I'm going to be travelling miles away for school. He says he has never done anything physical with her, has only seen her once since this started and it was in the company of another friend which I knew about at the time , he says he has never sent her gifts, and he says he has no romantic feelings for her at all.

He apologized profusely and got tears in his eyes which I have only seen happen when someone has died , and said again and again that he was stupid, he never meant to hurt me, it was a dumb thing that he got in the habit of doing when he was bored and feeling inadequate, lonely, horny, ugly.

He said it never happened when I was around and the timestamps support that. We had a four hour very respectful conversation about everything, he never raised his voice or got defensive with me, he listened patiently to everything I said, and he wants to try and get to a point where we communicate more deeply again instead of just on a surface level.

He took most of the responsibility for our current rut and pointed out things he's done that make it difficult to get out of the rut i. I'd ask to have the TV off for a night to just hang out, he'd ask to leave it on. He said the sexts had absolutely nothing to do with me, that he never felt I was doing anything inadequately, and that it was something that made him flattered and feel less lonely when I was gone.

Of course I would happily have sent him sexts any time he wanted and have many times in the past, so that made me feel pretty shitty -- why didn't he ask me? He also said that the worst thing about what he did was lying about it when I confronted it, and that he was ashamed of that.

He also said the second worst thing was just the lying in general. So I feel like shit, and so does he, and he's agreed to block her from everything he has. I believe he genuinely wants to make things work and seemed surprised I had even considered ending things earlier, before I knew it was just sexts. I believe there was nothing physical. But I can't be sure if he was joking or not when telling her when I'd be gone, and I can't be sure it was just her. It could be a lot worse, there was no love involved here and no physicality.

But there was lying, there was deceit.