You also said you're a people pleaser. That's the way I am, and it actually hurts me emotionally when a friend betrays me because of jealousy. I think women like us attract other women who are jealous of us because they are hoping some of our ability to attract men might rub off on them.
They are hoping that, by being seen with us, they will be able to attract more men. What they don't realize is that men are attracted to us because we are charming and accommodating to some degree.
Were you born under the sign Libra? It took me a long, long time, but I finally realized that there was nothing I could do about this jealousy thing. Not too long ago, a close friend of mine who is actually more attractive than I am but had trouble with her boyfriend told my husband that my ex had called her up about using her apartment in order to have an affair with me. I was totally floored that she would do something like this, and, of course, my husband saw right through her because she was trying to butter him up so he would get her a car for a low price My husband is in the car business.
I hope that in time you'll find some friends who aren't jealous of you. In my case, it is still happening in spite of my age. I just take it with a grain of salt, but I must say nowadays I'm more guarded in terms of whom I will accept as friends. You need to be cautious, too, because it can be heartbreaking to lose a friend because of the friend's jealousy. Just know you are not alone by any means.
You will meet people. Lots of those people have their own hang ups that you can't guess at. Very few stick throughout life. Due to their hangups. Its one of those unwritten rules about life that nobody tells you about. You are in the midst of learning it now.
Everyone wants to be your friend. Not many are up to the task. Thus you end up with those who eventually try to know you down, rather than support you. Who knows Only that they do. You learn i think to become more Selective in whom. Deserves your time and attention.
You can be friendly But not everyone is a true friend. Thanks for the support. I just don't find myself overly attractive. I find myself an average person. I am creative and smart and quirky. I'm shy. I never think people notice me and see this special person. I guess its a flaw in a way, I don't embrace the great person I am.
I'm not perfect and no one is. I have a good head on my shoulders and am a good planner and I think people are threatened by it. Also I am very moral and I think things through a ton. I am very in my head. And not that I ever make mistakes but thinking a lot leads me to often be right. And people I think also resent me for this. Its sometimes so horrible when this happens with friends. Losing them. I feel like they give up on me. Or the minute I get selfish and have a boy or don't want to go out with them I am suddenly this horrible bad friend.
Its so out of no where. And it hurts since I think I am a good friend. Loyal as ever. My experience has been that people don't think about me half as much as I might think they do. I grew up always first in my class, pretty, but it never occurred to me that anyone would be jealous of me. But I really didn't care because I was usually in my own little world.
If you gave me a book I would be in my glory. I don't know. Maybe if I'd socialized more I would have been more aware of jealousy. I never felt better than anyone else. Usually quite the opposite. That's the thing. I do care what people think, but its not everything. When it comes to what is right, what is moral, I don't care as long as I feel I did the right thing for myself and others and it was the right thing so I can sleep at night.
I would side against a whole group if I was on the good moral side. I was like you hen I was younger in my own little world. I never thought people were jealous of me ever. I sometimes envied others. Thinking that no one thought about me. I always felt like I faded into the background a lot.
Its been in college that my eyes have opened to this. Why certain people did things or said things to me. These often create anger at the person for sort of taking what should have been yours, or, anger at yourself for not doing more to get what the other person has. It can skew your vision tin the opposite direction of showing gratitude.
You might be slowly working your way toward our goals, get jealous of someone further along, focus on it, and stop your own progress by attracting obstacles with jealous thoughts.
It taught me to bless someone I feel jealous of. This takes practice! I feel more positive about manifesting my own. No one can stop your manifesting flow but YOU! Be happy for others! Wish them well with the money and then focus on manifesting your own win in whatever it is you want. The better you feel about what you want, the stronger the vibration you put out.
When you can replace jealousy with blessings for the person who has what you want, your chances of attracting it increase as your mood and outlook get more positive. And we were the fortunate ones because each of us had good friends who at least eventually told us what was going on so we knew what we were dealing with. Most important, once we thought about what was going on, none of us allowed it to harm our self-esteem although it made all of us more leery about being so quick to trust others.
Adrianne Reynolds, a teenager in East Moline, Illinois, was pretty and popular. And she was murdered because of it. Sara Kolb and Corey Gregory strangled, burned, and dismembered their classmate because of a jealous argument. They were both tried and sentenced to more than 40 years in prison. Melanie Smith burned an entire family to death because of jealousy and envy both. She was sentenced to 30 years in prison. Christine Paolilla killed four of her friends in a complicated situation that was exacerbated by both jealousy and envy.
We have to remember: Jealousy and envy are toxic, misplaced anger. More on that in a future post. For most of us, the dark side of having someone envy us is finding out we were the subject of gossip, perhaps not invited to party—no worse.
But for some who are the objects of envy or jealousy, losing a job, relationship, or friendships can result. Or worse. Certainly you have the right to confront someone. It might be time for some self-evaluation. But if some damage has already been done—to your reputation or relationships—you have two options. Hold your head high and ignore it. Neuroplasticity may mean your brain can grow and heal all the time. If you're living with a mental health condition, your brain's ability to….
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